Screw school pamphlets, unhelpful grief groups, and people saying “sorry for your loss.” It’s time to get real about grief. We’re in this together.
Why we love it: The Fault in Our Stars (Penguin Books, 2014) may not be recent, but it is such a classic. You might've seen the movie, but trust us - the book is one of the best YA books out there.
The story is about Hazel, this 16-year-old cancer patient who meets this guy named Gus in her cancer support group. Things get pretty intense as their relationship heats up and they let themselves be vulnerable with each other. The author, John Green, tells it like it is, no sugarcoating.
One of the best quotes about grief: "Grief does not change you Hazel. It reveals you." Yes, we love that!
You'll laugh, you'll cry (for real, have tissues on hand), and your heart will likely break a little. But that's what makes it so good. It's raw and honest. It's a YA classic for a reason.
What we love: Okay, so "Coco" is technically a movie for kids, but it's definitely for all of us! It's an animated fantasy by Pixar, and it's so good, both the story and the stunning visuals.
The movie follows a 12-year-old Mexican boy named Miguel, who goes on a crazy adventure to the "Land of the Dead" to meet his dead great-great-grandfather. The story is all about family, tradition, and remembering those who've died.
"Coco" made me feel jealous of how well Mexican culture celebrates those who have died. It's about honoring and never forgetting our loved ones, and that's such an important part of the tradition. I feel like for so many teens , we're supposed to be sad and then just move on and stop thinking about our grief so much (as if we can!).
Also the movie is just so cool looking! Death and mourning don't have to be shot in all black and gloomy gray colors. "Coco" shows that there's beauty and brightness in all of life, including remembering and celebrating the lives of those who have died.
If you're looking for a heartwarming and really good film, this is it. Get ready to feel many emotions and maybe shed a tear (or twelve).
What we love: Love, love, love Demi Lovato's song "Father." It's all about her emotions after her dad died from cancer in 2013. Demi has always been honest and public about her complicated relationship with her father, and this song is no exception.
The lyrics are so genuine, and for those of us who have complicated relationships with our parent who died, we can all probably relate to the lines:
"You did your best, or did you?,
I think I hate you.
I'm sorry, dad, for feeling this.
I can't believe I'm saying it."
Yes, just because we love our parent doesn't mean we also don't feel anger or disappointment with their behaviors and actions. So we're glad she's "saying it" and not pretending it was something other than it was.
Demi pours so much emotion into her singing. It's like she's baring her soul to us. We appreciate her so much showing her vulnerability!
What we love: Have you heard about this video game that came out in 2016? It's called "That Dragon, Cancer," and it takes you on an emotional journey through four-years of Joel, based on a real boy who sadly died from cancer in 2014.
The game was created by Joel's parents, Ryan and Amy Green, and their friend Josh Larson. It's a true story, and let me tell you, playing it is a rollercoaster of emotions. One of the scenes that got me choked up was all these cards in Joel's hospital room that you can click on a read.
Be warned, it's all pretty heart-wrenching. But it's also an incredible tribute to this real-life story, and there's comfort in it too. It explores themes of faith, hope, and love in such thoughtful way.
A lot of video games are made to help us escape our feelings. If you're looking for a video game that makes you feel, this is it. It's an emotional journey you won't forget.
“It's hard to find people who have gone through the same things as those of us who are grieving. Even on social media, you don't see people talking about death on anyone's feed.”